I know for me it's quite common to ask, every few steps of the way, questions meant to make the subject stop and examine the situation. Examine what's happening to them and their feelings on it. I think it's fairly common for every hypnotist and every subject. They go something like, "How do you feel about this?" "What are you feeling?" "Describe what you feel..." so on and so forth. I know they can become tiresome, and I know it can be silly to hear them so often, but it actually shows the hypnotist's constant awareness of the subject's feelings, mindset, and (hopefully) shifting mindset. When I myself am the subject, I notice that the hypnotists who ask that a lot, though somewhat comical after the fifth time in fifteen minutes, are actually the much better trances. The person conducting the trance is slowly dissecting your responses--taking apart what works, what doesn't, how strongly it works, why this works versus the last thing that didn't work as much--and problem solving their way through to overcome the natural hurtles in the human mind and blaze the trail for that, and future enjoyable experiences.
((Here's where the educational stuff starts...I can't help but feel a need to be somewhat educational in the how's and why's. It's who I am, and it's my blog dammit. But, if you're less interested in how and why I do what I do with training my subjects, move on until the end brackets))
But more than that, it's often a time that a subject gets the chance to process what's happening. What's changing. And more than that, actually notice what they feel associated with that event. Strong changes in personality can be initially terrifying (humanity is naturally neophobic--we fear the new and change instinctively), so much so that they don't notice things that are actually positive reactions to the event. Sometimes it's necessary to 'scare' the subject and then after the moment has passed let them realize they've become incredibly worked up remembering the event, and they can't wait to try again. However it's usually much more helpful and healthy that in the moment, while the person is out, to let them acclimate...realize that yes, it's new and scary in a way, but you enjoy that. You want that. You're crazy enough that, despite the fact it's very new, it's very exciting and you're eager to see where it will go despite the scariness.
Holding a subject in the moment and making them experience it fully, from beginning to end, has proven to be the better path for me...it forces the subject to learn trust. Not to run every time something that pushes their preconceived boundaries, but to trust that I have their best interests in mind, and that I'll make sure that everything's fine from beginning to end and just to cling to me until the fear vanishes in trade for the pleasure they know I'm endeavoring to bring to us both.
((Look! The end of the educational portion! For now anyway))
All of that is to say, periodic pauses and reflections are important for growth together. This is also true for Hypnodommes. And it's been brought to my attention that in a hectic life with a hectic schedule, I haven't had a chance to reflect on my own feelings about a lot of what I do, how I do it, and why I do it. That's a lot of drawn out, ongoing stuff to do, but for a brief overview...just to reflect what I have found out about myself...
When I get a subject, I usually spend inordinate amounts of time exploring their fantasies. Learning from them, as I hope they learn from me. My puppet's allowed me to explore many of my own...more recently, you can see this in a post on my puppet's blog where I've found and been exploring a love of objectification.... It's something I don't think I was ever prepared to admit to myself I enjoyed the idea of. There's something just about the concept that says that you care less about a person. That they somehow don't mean as much to the person who is objectifying them. That has always bothered me...but I must admit it appealed to me more secretly.
I suppose we'll just examine that one for this post.... Objectification, for me, is clarifying more into a kind of deeper ownership. A deeper kind of ownership and trust than between two 'people'. More, it becomes with one person you simply 'are'. I'm trying to explain it...I'm still wrapping my mind around it. Not what it is, but how it is, and yet still is alright somehow with my moral makeup.
I suppose I'll put this way.... With my puppet it's an assumption. That if I want it, it will be. Arguments are more cursory appeals, but in the end if I wish it, it is. And what's more, it can be made to be a foregone conclusion, all the way back to the deepest part of my puppet's memory to remove any inkling of questioning now or ever again. And that's my right. Because my puppet is just that. Mine.
To put it in a story setting...it is deep conditioning to the point that a person becomes simply an extension of another's will. You could say a monk to the will of the monastery for example. An unquestioning, loyal tool. Their own will or thoughts on the matter are superseded by an understanding that they will do what is expected of them. Wholly and full heartedly. And any hesitation on their part they would freely admit to the one giving the commands to be corrected. Because they truly believe it's the right thing to do. It's their place. Their lot. And what they sincerely want to be.
Control that deep is quite exciting...and quite real. Honestly that's how morals and social laws come into existence. To take this very natural thing trained into us from birth, and then use that in an intimate setting.... And it is objectification. In the fact that the person is thereby making themselves just an object. A set of hands set to work the will of another, and eagerly so with great hope to be as useful as possible, in any small or large task. And a set of hands has no say what work will be done or how. They simply fulfill it. There's something both wicked, and gentle in that...and I'm nothing if not a compilation of contradictions. To twist a mind that deeply...to easily turn someone's mind in on themselves that way, slowly deepening that control of their own will. Their own need to do so.
Another example would be something of an automaton. A robot, following set instructions, and only set instructions. That their beginning and end comes from only one source. And that's all the reason needed. There are no thoughts, and the moment begins and ends in the words and eyes of the controller. I've seen that come in brief instances into the eyes of one or two subjects...and I can imagine what it would look like longer term. Minutes. Hours. Days...
There's also, as said, something wicked about it that's always made something in me hesitate. Fortunately for me (and possibly unfortunately for my puppet) I've found someone demented enough to find that wickedness as squirm-worthy as I do that I can explore it further....
I have a dark side. I know that quite well. If I just threw my hesitations to the wind, I would be a likely wicked, wicked woman, breaking minds left and right rather than gently sheltering and trying to help them grow in their own way. I'm still discovering some of this...and I doubt I'll ever discover the full extent of how far that could go first hand, in actual, unless the sub and I were very intimately tied long term. But who knows...my puppet seems determined to tease the beast out of the well meaning protector. We may find out how deep that streak runs. The idea of having that kind of devout, devoted follower and object seems....
Well...you either understand, or you don't.
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MC Stories that mirror some of this topic:
Legacy by trilby_else
Sleeper by trilby_else
Undertow by 8bit
If anyone else has references of similar stories or stories they believe also touch upon parts of this idea, please comment with them! I'd love a compare
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